How to Prepare Your Autistic Child For College December 4, 2009
Ian Welham on what you can do to prepare your autistic child for college.
What happens when your autistic child wants to go away to college? Up to even a few years ago there would not be much of a discussion. People with autism did not normally go to college because there were just too many obstacles to success. But today it is possible for autistic students to consider a college education. It is important though, that parents help prepare them for the journey.
The first step is to find out what accommodations are available for your autistic child as far as standardized testing is concerned. There are certain accommodations for the SAT’s and ACT’s, such as longer testing times and having questions read aloud. But you must apply for these accommodations early; sometimes you may either need to show formal documentation or submit to additional evaluations. The PSAT or a practice SAT is a good pre-test that will show you what your child may need to do to prepare for the real thing.
The next step is to look into pre-college programs. These programs are put in place to help show kids what types of skills are necessary to succeed in college. Some even offer short stays in the dorms, giving participants a true test of college life, and you a true test of their ability to deal with change.
Next, research schools thoroughly. A growing number of schools are starting programs to help autistic students achieve. Some colleges now have autism centers that help mentor students when they feel overwhelmed or even help match them up with groups where they may feel comfortable socially. Also, inquire about buddy or mentor programs. These may help your child adjust better, since they already have a friend they can turn to, have dinner with and hopefully meet more friends through.
Another important step is increasing your child’s independent living skills at home before s/he leaves for college. Have him wake up to an alarm instead of being woken up by you. Have her prepare her breakfast or lunch a few days a week. Even have him learn how to do his laundry. It will help you feel like you’ve taught him the right way and it will help your child not feel so overwhelmed.
Another way to make your child feel comfortable is to walk them through the campus several times before they start school to help them become acquainted with the grounds and where their classes will be. Once you decide upon a school, walk your child through the hallways, show them the student services center, show them where health services are and introduce them to some students and staff. It will help both of you to know they have some friendly faces on campus.
Lastly, maintain a strong support system at home. Even children without the burden of autism have a difficult time starting college, and part of that difficulty is not wanting to disappoint their parents – especially ones who were so excited about college in the first place. So to help ease the transition, tell your child to do their best, and as long as they try, show them you are happy. Encourage them to tell you about their day and classes. It will help them by talking it out and it will help you stay in the loop. Maybe you can even make some small suggestions. But make them small. Remember, they’re in college now!
